The Thing All Women Do That You Don’t Know About

Some of this is tough to read, but I think it’s a really good post which is why I’ve reblogged it. It’s more than just listening that’s needed, though that’s a good start. I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again: we shouldn’t have to teach girls how to avoid being attacked and raped, we should be teaching the attackers and rapists that their behaviour is wrong and that they shouldn’t be doing these things.

Drifting Through

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There’s this thing that happens whenever I speak about or write about women’s issues. Things like dress codes, rape culture and sexism. I get the comments: Aren’t there more important things to worry about? Is this really that big of a deal? Aren’t you being overly sensitive? Are you sure you’re being rational about this?

Every. Single. Time.

And every single time I get frustrated. Why don’t they get it?

I think I’ve figured out why.

They don’t know.

They don’t know about de-escalation. Minimizing. Quietly acquiescing.

Hell, even though women live it, we are not always aware of it. But we have all done it.

We have all learned, either by instinct or by trial and error, how to minimize a situation that makes us uncomfortable. How to avoid angering a man or endangering ourselves. We have all, on many occasions, ignored an offensive comment. We’ve all…

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3 thoughts on “The Thing All Women Do That You Don’t Know About”

  1. She is 100% right. I still worry at my age about the footsteps behind me in the parking lot. I remember being “rated” as a teenager by adult males. I understand the pressure to be part of a couple in order to fit in. Men don’t understand because they don’t experience it. I can’t understand what it’s like to have cancer but I can listen and be compassionate. Men need to step up to the plate and be a real man, stop the sexual nudges and have compassion for women. You are very brave to post this on your blog but it shows you are a confident man who has compassion for women. Well done.

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